A: Thank you so much for having the COURAGE to feel the Fear and say it anyway! I admire you! The courage that you have is Powerful. Stay in that place, because in that place you will live a life that is not only extraordinary, but also authentic. What an amazing combination!
Your letter gives me the opportunity to write about one of my favourite topics ‘Loving Your Uniqueness’ – compared to no one else. Some of us may not be as brave and as accepting of ‘our true self’ as you are. The question then becomes: How do we fully embrace and love our unique selves?
For most people, it is much easier to find all the things that we feel ‘need to be fixed’ or ‘aren’t good enough’, but this way of thinking only has us be at war with ourselves. It’s not a fun or productive place to be and fighting who we are and how we look is exhausting.
I find that when we acknowledge what others may be thinking and what we are thinking, it can feel like a weight has been lifted from us. You may have heard the saying ‘the elephant in the room’ –meaning; that there is an issue that everyone knows about or a thought that everyone is thinking, but no one will bring it up or talk about it.
Talking about the issue or saying it out loud can be very freeing. This will also allow for a conversation to take place, where people get the chance to share their thoughts and feelings, which in turn allows us to move through whatever the issue is.
Each of us looks, thinks and feels differently, which is what makes our world so wonderful. Trying to be someone or something that you are not is frustrating. Plus it doesn’t allow people to get to know the wonderful you.
‘What do you get from not accepting? Maybe it’s time to stop rejecting.’ – lyrics from my song Love Crusade
Embracing your wonderful uniqueness will allow your confidence to grow. Being confident with who you are, is a key ingredient to true happiness.
Here is an exercise you can do in order to help you embrace YOU:
· Write down the things that you like about yourself. Write as many as you can think of (Ex: thoughtful, caring, animal lover, patient etc). If you have a great friend or a family member that you are close with and trust, ask them to share with you some great qualities that they notice you have.
· Take the things that you like about yourself and write them in large letters and place them in areas where you will see them.(Ex: mirror, locker, desk, binder etc). This will give you uplifting reminders of who you are.
Focusing on the great things about ourselves and our lives gives us to the ability to accept our uniqueness, to own it and to really make our lives and ourselves the best that they can be for us!
Choose to Start loving who you are - embrace your flaws and all. Give yourself the gift of self-acceptance and love! It is not about being Perfect. It is about being the best that you can be for you and really owning it!
‘Now you’ll hear my voice and I am going to Fly!’ - lyrics from my song Used To
Choose to be on your Team!
Until next time...
This has been 'my voice' but I respect that this is your life - this is 'your choice'
Keep reaching out until someone listens.
