It Hurts to Be Made Fun Of

Q: I am being made fun of because I have an acne problem. Sometimes I just can’t handle it. What should I do?
 

A: I understand how painful it is to have people say hurtful things about you.

We all have experienced it at one time or another. For me, a painful time was when I was in school and a boy said, ‘Sara you have a Big Bum.’ It seems funny to write that, but it was anything but funny when it was said.
Unfortunately I allowed that negative comment to affect me. I started to believe that I had a big bum. But that was only half the problem.

I also started to believe that my body was not good enough. That belief led to low self-esteem. I allowed these 'silly' comments to effect me, to have power over me.
‘What do we get from not accepting? Maybe it’s time to stop rejecting?' - lyrics from my song 'Love Crusade’

In order to get my self-confidence back on track I had to change my thoughts about myself. I had to say positive affirmations'.

What I mean by this is...every time a negative thought about me would creep into my mind I would replace it with something positive.

My affirmation was: 'I choose to love myself just the way I am.’ I even wrote it on my mirror and wall as a reminder. I kept saying my affirmation even though my mind was telling me - 'No you don't.’

I wanted to feel truly happy in my own skin. So I persisted until I believed it. Sometimes I still need reminders. We all do.

Never allow other people's negative comments define who you are!
People will challenge us: our looks, our beliefs, what we do. It can be hurtful and upsetting.

You define who you are by the thoughts you choose to hold about yourself! So choose your thoughts wisely.
Remember you are not alone. There are many people who are going through the same or similar situation.

If you ever feel that you need to talk to someone anonymously Kids Help Phone is a great resource.

In Canada please call 1 800 668 6868 or visit www.kidshelpphone.ca

Until next time...

This has been 'my voice' but I respect that this is your life, this is 'your choice'

P.S. If you are faced with a circumstance where you need help, one of the best UPower choices you can make is to Reach Out to your parents/adults, teachers, principals, counsellors, friends or www.kidshelpphone.ca to get the support you deserve.
Keep reaching out until someone listens.