A: Let me share a time when I felt hurt in high school. The bell had rung and the hallways were crowded with people trying to get to their lockers. I was standing in an area of the hall that most of my friends occuppied during our school breaks.
We were all chatting when I spotted the boy that I thought was not only cute, but that I could picture myself dating.
He stood across the hall talking with another group of people who were also my friends. I can remember watching him out of the corner of my eye, daydreaming about the fun we would have together. My dream came crashing to a sudden halt when I overheard him asking one of my older friends 'out'.
My friend said 'Yes' and I felt my heart sink.
’What?' I thought.
‘This is not how I expected this to go. Can this really be happening?’
I watched them talking and laughing as they walked away together.
I was so upset that I was wondering how I was going to carry on not only with my day but the rest of my life.At that moment it seemed as though the hurt and upset would last forever.
Now I look back and know that it was just a moment in my life - not my entire life.
We have all have felt the pain of having something happen that we did not expect or want. It is definitely not a good feeling to have our expectations of what 'should' happen, be crushed.
‘I won’t lay down because of you. I will not hide from you. I know what I am made of and I will push through.’ - lyrics from my song ‘Push Through’
Allow yourself to feel the hurt and upset that you are experiencing. Only in this way can you truly embrace your emotions. Here are a few constructive ways that have helped me to release and move through the pain of my emotions.
· Crying, screaming into a pillow.
· Writing your thoughts and feelings in a journal
· Sharing with a trusted friend.
After you have allowed yourself to feel your emotions, choose to pick yourself up and start focusing on the great things about you and your life. It is easy to focus on all the negative things that have happened to us, but choosing to change that focus to the positive allows us to feel happiness once again.
We all experience disappointment, loss and hurt but it is how we choose to move through it and what we choose to learn from it, that will determine who we become and how our life looks.
Allow this experience to have you see that there is life after hurt and pain. Keep focusing on the wonderful parts of your life and keep Creating more of that!
Choose to Push Through. Choose to be on your team!
Until next time...
This has been 'my voice' but I respect that this is your life - this is 'your choice'
Keep reaching out until someone listens.
