A: I am so sorry to hear about the loss of so many people that were very close to you. It is hard when people we love and enjoy having around are no longer here.
When I think about my Dad not being alive and not able to be a physical part of my life, I become upset and frustrated.
I allow myself to feel that upset, but I choose not to stay there. What I mean by this is - even though there are moments when the pain of the loss of my dad fills my mind and I relive the moment I saw him lifeless - I make a conscious choice to redirect my thoughts and my focus. Choosing to stay in the pain or living in the past would make it very hard for me to enjoy my life or to enjoy the people around me that are still here.
The majority of the time I choose to focus on the fact that I am grateful I had my dad in my life for as long as I did. I remember the wonderful times we shared and I know that he is around me, even though it may not be physically. Choosing to have this as my focus, allows me to continue to live my life with gratitude and joy.
There will always be moments when a painful memory slips into my mind or a time when I just have to cry. I allow myself to feel the emotion for a moment. Then I choose to focus on what gifts I received from having that person be a part of my life.
You are still here on this earth and you have things to do. I am sure that your loved ones would want you to live with happiness and a zest for life. It can be painful at times, but choose to keep moving forward with loving memories in your heart!
Until next time...
This has been 'my voice' but I respect that this is your life, this is 'your choice'
Keep reaching out until someone listens.
